There is this public stigma that has plagued black women for years. The stigma I am referring to is the black woman’s supposed disrespectful and controlling attitude. In the past couple of years, this specific attitude focused stigma has been singled out as one of the primary reasons why some black men flee to other races of women. As a woman, I have to admit that in theory it applies to some women but not most. However, men do play a very major part in changing a woman’s attitude during a relationship. As Sir Issac Newton’s law of physics states, “For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction” this is also the case for women in relationships. Outlined in this article are specific questions I would like to address to men in regards to why a woman’s attitude can change.