FACEBOOK: Changing People from Ordinary to Extraordinary
Social networks like Facebook are changing your run of the mill nobodies into extraordinary, special individuals. I am totally convinced that the majority of the people online are aspiring actors, actresses and fiction writers. Looking at some of these people’s Facebook profiles, you would swear they were living dream lives while others look as if they’re some type of celebrity in whatever city or town they live in.
I just recently watched a documentary on a man linking up with a woman on Facebook. He found out later that this woman didn’t exist nor did her circle of friends. This woman constructed a whole new identity using pictures she found in magazines and online resources. I consider this very sad and desperate but even more diabolical. Please keep in mind that this female Photoshopped in friends, family, and pets to build this identity to sell a bogus bi-product of who she wanted to be. She actively operated over 40 Facebook profiles which all of them possessed their own identities and then photoshopped in friends and family for each profile to support this one personality. This man fell in love with a lie and once the truth was realized a year later, all the little inconsistencies that he ignored during the “relationship” all became clear.
Of course, this story is on the extreme side of the spectrum of betrayal and deceit that can be harvested on Facebook, but we see this everyday on various levels. You need to learn how to spot these inconsistencies from the beginning and step away quickly if you are going to play the “Facebook Dating Game.”
For example, this is an email I received from a married man last week:
“Hey beautiful lady, I cannot stop looking at your pictures. You are one overwhelmingly sexy woman. I hope I am not being too forward but I would love to photograph you. I own a small production company and I think you would be perfect for an ad campaign I am working on. I know you don’t know me and this email is odd but I feel like I just have to get to know you on some level. Can I take you out and show you a good time I have allot of connections and can really take you places. Please accept my friendship or more .”
I looked at his profile and it turns out that he is newly married and in the Army. His pictures consist of family and friends, none of which look to be taken professionally. Furthermore, in his list of hobbies were reading, playing basketball, and sports. There was nothing about photography in his profile whatsoever. He lives in another state with is wife and two children but is stationed in my state at a fort nearby. Apparently, he doesn’t think that I can read or discern that his façade is paper thin so I emailed him back.
“Hello. Wow, thanks for such flattering complements. Who would have thought I would be spotted by a professional photographer as yourself and get a job sight unseen. I guess I would be extremely excited if you weren’t trying to use this bullshit ploy to search out fuckable prospects. Maybe I should click on the link to your wife and send her this email. I wonder if she would sing praises of your wonderful work as a photographer. I wonder if the Army knew you were doing this type of stuff, would allow you to continue to serve with them. Looks like with your 10 years in, it would be a shame to throw that all away for an easy piece of ass. You know what?! We can meet up if you want. Not a problem. Let me contact your wife and find out what would be a good time for us all to meet up and take pictures.”
It takes a day or so but he responds:
This email is one of many men claiming to be something in order to deceive me for whatever personal reason he has conjured in his naughty little head. Facebook has it all. Married men parading around as if they were single and the people with no real physical life beyond their front door but have built themselves up as a virtual dream to the opposite sex.
A couple of months ago I spoke to a woman in which we have a mutual male friend on Facebook. I don’t know her but she was upset because of what linked this man and me together. She read a conversation as to us meeting up for some drinks and instantly became worried. She goes on to ask questions about him and our relationship together and states that he has been getting money from her and promising her they would be together. I research a bit more into this and found a few other women placing the same allegations on this man. I had to admit to this woman that we are only friends but if she felt that she was being taken advantage of she should discontinue communication. I pegged him from the gate as some sort of user due to my talent of spotting con-men but to what extent I did not know until recently. As a friend he is a very cool person but as the layers of his façade were peeled back he has proven himself as nothing more then a con-artist and digital gigolo.
I recently came across a female who we will call a serial poster. Her main objective is to build up her sexual self esteem. What is a sexual self esteem? This type of esteem is how a person feels about himself or herself sexually. You will most likely never see anything but their face and their conversation is basically centered on or around sex. They are very outspoken or even crass about this topic and seem to have no concern about how others view them. They prop themselves up to be sexual Gods to gather attention from men which basically turns out to be disrespectful. They are in-boxing your husbands and sending them special Photoshopped pictures of private body parts which may or may not be their own. In real life, they are more than likely overweight, single, and overlooked by men in public. These people are invisible in everyday mild mannered America, but within these social networks they never fall short of attention and praise by the oversexed and perverted scourges of the internet.
If you are not aware of some of the Facebook personality traits, here are some to look out for:
The Holy Roller
Catch Phrase: I am blessed and highly favored.
These people cannot talk about anything with out linking it to GOD. There is always some underlining theme to a post or discussion but can never back up their claim to righteousness. In most cases they are on the low hooking up dates of infidelity or adulterous acts. Their profile picture is most likely a picture of Jesus or Praying hands but if you look through their profile pictures you can see them half naked taking provocative pictures in their bathroom.
Catch phrase: I love women.
These men never have a bad word to say about a woman. They send virtual roses and teddy bears wishing hopes of a good day. Their friends list is mostly women of countless beauty in which he hopes to cash in on his stock of e-pussy. They never say they are not ready for a relationship but keep you on the string as the one if they were.
Catch phrase: Success is made by those willing to sacrifice everything.
They dress the part. In every photo they are dressed to kill with not a picture out of place. There virtual persona is impeccable and well established. It reads proof of income, status, admiration, and class. Everyone in there world seems perfect and there might be a celebrity or two thrown in for good measure. The catch is to make you think they are more important then you and build this feeling of being worthy to be around them. There total objective is to have you buy into their world for monetary reasons only. They take your money and run.
On the whole, men and women alike are bullshitting their way through social networks in hopes of finding the next victim. The next victim could be you if you’re not careful. The next time you cross paths with the extraordinary, I urge you to look beyond the surface. You just might be giving someone who was extremely ordinary or maybe even insignificant to the world and people they actually know too much attention.
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