Are You in an Imaginary Relationship?
I know without a shadow of a doubt that most of you in reading the title of this article instantly said to yourselves, “NO!” Well, I am sorry to be informing you that yourself or someone you currently know is engaging in an imaginary relationship. I have heard story after story from countless people claiming they were wronged by the opposite sex, but take a closer look at their situation and you will realize that the cause of the failure was of their own doing. The problem always lies in a word called “reality”. It never seems to exist for some people. I have three specific personalities in mind.
Case #1: The Dreamer
The person who see’s the relationship before it even begins. Every move, word, and action of the other person is over amplified into signs that they want to be serious or committed. Once a sexual encounter takes place, an automatic relationship springs from it. They talk of this person as if they are their woman/man without ever having “the talk”. In extreme cases, this person will even start making plans to live together, have children, or even get married. When things don’t go exactly how they dreamed in their head, the other person is either labelled as a user, whore, player, or just a bad person period.
Case #2: The Stalker
This person devotes every minute, hour, second, and day of every week to making themselves available to any romantic interest they may have in their sights. They impose themselves onto the other person and will sometimes show up uninvited to the romantic interests home, job, or social events. They consistently convince themselves that there is more going on than there really is and the pursuit is heightened if any attention is given to them at anytime. To get rid of these people sometimes addresses and phone numbers need to change because all these people know is what they want.
Case #3: The Victim
This person is usually promiscuous and is constantly moved by their emotions. They’re very needy and emotionally wounded people. Often times, these people are very delusional and refuses to listen to any advice anyone may have in regards to their relationships. The interesting thing about these people is that they will ask for advice, but will not follow or listen to one word. They only ask because they want to know if your thinking processes align with theirs. Most conversations with these people are a waste of time.
On the whole, in any combination these types of people all end up finding out the hard way that they were never not in a relationship and chalk it up to being cheated on or mislead. The other party usually ends up saying, “We were never together?!?” My point is don’t assume you are in a relationship with a person just because y’all hit the sheets. If your emotionally detached by sex then before you give it up let them know what you expect or suffer the consequences of participating in an imaginary relationship.
Are You in an Imaginary Relationship? by Wake Up Ph.D. is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-ShareAlike 3.0 Unported License.